Do not lecture your children - not even under the guise of reasoning with them. Threats and nagging are useless in dealing with children. In fact, threats probably make children worse, not better. Talking with your children is important; however, be careful to avoid talking with them only at times of crisis or problems. Rather, spend your time talking with them when things are pleasant and running smoothly. For example, if you and your child are working together or going somewhere together, that is the perfect time to talk with your child. With smaller children, talking to them a lot is a good way to get language development started. Just try carrying on a running description of what you are doing.